What ARE you thinking?

As I tried to post in the last damn thread to Sarah:

In all honesty though you probably don't want to hurt him terribly, and sending him a sarcastic letter or just flying off the handle would do just that.

The mature thing, I suppose, would just be to tell him exactly how you feel and that you don't see the relationship carrying on this way, and that you want to end it, leaving no room for misconceptions etc,

The problem with that approach is that its cold, and easy to break from. When faced with something like that its very easy to find yourself saying things you don't mean, giving reasons for it that aren't really that appropriate and maybe even finding yourself giving 'one more chance' against your wishes.

Stay strong, put your feelings first- because that's exactly what he will try and do to you. Decide what you want and get it, don't be led astray.

It is of course, much easier said than done, and a black and white approach isn't appropriate for the shades of grey relationships tend to be. You will probably be upset yourself, if not now, then later when the thing rears its head into your mind again for whatever reason.

On a depressed note, I have come to realise that relationships are the most painful, confusing and disastrous things that a person can go through. The relatively simple process of ending them is somehow worse when they move on. Just prepare for it, and be ready to accept that getting over something doesn't mean you'll stop thinking about it.

Or, of course, ignore everything I say.  I'm still affected by a girl who ditched me 3 years ago, who should- for all intense and purposes- have got over that by now. I even have a girlfriend- MORE THAN ONE since her, and she still makes my stomach tighten.

I need help about that...


Yes, I do regret the fact that such an emo post was on page one, but f*ck it, it was SUPPOSED to be 150

As I tried to post in the last damn thread to Sarah:

In all honesty though you probably don't want to hurt him terribly, and sending him a sarcastic letter or just flying off the handle would do just that.

The mature thing, I suppose, would just be to tell him exactly how you feel and that you don't see the relationship carrying on this way, and that you want to end it, leaving no room for misconceptions etc,

The problem with that approach is that its cold, and easy to break from. When faced with something like that its very easy to find yourself saying things you don't mean, giving reasons for it that aren't really that appropriate and maybe even finding yourself giving 'one more chance' against your wishes.

Stay strong, put your feelings first- because that's exactly what he will try and do to you. Decide what you want and get it, don't be led astray.

It is of course, much easier said than done, and a black and white approach isn't appropriate for the shades of grey relationships tend to be. You will probably be upset yourself, if not now, then later when the thing rears its head into your mind again for whatever reason.

On a depressed note, I have come to realise that relationships are the most painful, confusing and disastrous things that a person can go through. The relatively simple process of ending them is somehow worse when they move on. Just prepare for it, and be ready to accept that getting over something doesn't mean you'll stop thinking about it.

Or, of course, ignore everything I say.  I'm still affected by a girl who ditched me 3 years ago, who should- for all intense and purposes- have got over that by now. I even have a girlfriend- MORE THAN ONE since her, and she still makes my stomach tighten.

I need help about that...


Yes, I do regret the fact that such an emo post was on page one, but f*ck it, it was SUPPOSED to be 150