I hate my life.

I hate my life.

Not the kind of hate where you get really angry. No. I don't have the energy to be angry. I just hate my life, full stop.

What's the point in being angry about it? That gets you nowhere. In fact, nothing gets you anywhere, ever.

Ordinarily, I would mumble this to myself as I lay in bed staring at the blackness of night. However, you are here, and so am I.

I have no future at the moment. Not in education, employment, relationship, I can even see some of my long term friendships coming to a closure rather soon.

I'm not after sympathy. Preferably, a solution. Preferably even....you can all join me in misery. After all....misery loves company, and you're welcome at the home of the blues.

Some of you have known love, some haven't. Some have known disconnection from society and reality, some haven't. Some of you, won't really understand what I mean, but think you do.

What fun.

Um, so yes. I do hate my life. I have for a while now, for more than just a while. I don't actively talk to even my closest of friends about it, because it's awkward and unresolvable.

One of the problems, is that I don't care enough about certain things. For example, I bet you all care about getting a job. Well sure, I want happiness, worldly goods, but....a job? The whole premise of a job, is something you don't enjoy doing.

I understand....that people do something they don't enjoy, because it is offset by something they enjoy far more. For example, continuing to live.

But, beyond biologically living, are you really living, spending most of your life doing something you don't enjoy, surrounded by people you don't like?

I worked in an office for a year, not much granted, but that's how I feel about it. Don't tell me that your experience is different. If you had a nice time working with your fellow man, then YOU'RE the person I didn't like at that office. The sort of person who gets along with everyone because they're all on the same wavelength.

Girls into cosmetics, guys into cars.

Not me.

This goes under rants, I think. But...it's more than just a rant. You, my lovely stranger, know a little about me, that some of my best friends do not.

Now, go have a cup of tea and watch the news, or...whatever.

I'm going to tell you something. When I was 16, this was me. I had no friends, I was so ill I never left the house, I didn't want a job, or a boyfriend, or to do anything. I wanted to stop existing. People and interaction were little more than a chore to me. But YOU have to make the effort. That is the solution. If you stare at the walls saying how much you hate life then you aren't doing anything constructive. If you hate it, change it. Find out what your good qualities are, and use them. VR helped me to realise I have a strange sense of humour which everyone around me now seems to love. It helps me get in there and make friends, where before I would have just sat there wondering what to say or wishing they'd go away so I could stop feeling uncomfortable. Now, I just say what I think. You get one life and what's the point in it if you don't do what YOU want to do?

I still don't have a lot of friends, but I found the courage to talk to a few people on here and in reality who I now consider to be good friends, and to get a job. I say courage. I mean arsedness. You can say "Ohhh, what's the point in work? It makes me miserable" but it doesn't have to. There are jobs which you can enjoy, but you're the one who has to decide what you want to do with your life. Nobody else can do it for you. If you don't like offices, cross it off your list. I didn't, but the office I'm in now we have a laugh and the day goes quick and I get paid a sh*tload for doing a rewarding job that I actually enjoy, and I never thought that could happen. But it can.

I'm not surrounded by people I don't like simply because I don't take sh*t. If I don't like you, you're going to know about it, but it's about balance. It's about knowing to take a step back from sh*t people and taking a step forward towards people who make you happy. If you can't find anyone you really get along with, I hate to say it but you have a problem, because you're surrounded by about 20 here at least. It's you that has to make the effort. If you don't, don't whine about it.

My point, in summary. If you don't like office jobs, get a job you do enjoy. Really think about what you'd do in your wildest dreams and GO FOR IT. If you don't like the people you're surrounded by, step back and find new people. There are billions to choose from, you're not going to like every chocolate bar in the store but there's so much choice that you can find one you like. Regarding getting a girlfriend, you need to focus on yourself first. If you have the attitude that people aren't worth it, no girl is going to be attracted because girls want attention not apathy. That's the solution. You. Nobody else. You hate your life, make it work for you. That's your job, nobody else's.

All I want to say is that you SHOULD be angry.

Angry is good. You should be f*cking p*ssed off that you currently have a life that you hate. And because you are so p*ssed off you should do everything you can think of to change it. And everything anyone else thinks of for that matter, if you are currently lacking inspiration.

What are you waiting for exactly? No-one is going to arrive at your door and hand you a billion squid. You're right that some people spend their whole lives making money, and not enjoying their lives. But on the other hand you need money to stay alive and to be able to do those things you enjoy. And there are good jobs out there, I'm not sure where you got the whole 'all jobs are sh*t' idea from.

Quote: Obinice, Aug 2009

I hate my life.

Not the kind of hate where you get really angry. No. I don't have the energy to be angry. I just hate my life, full stop.

What's the point in being angry about it? That gets you nowhere. In fact, nothing gets you anywhere, ever.

Ordinarily, I would mumble this to myself as I lay in bed staring at the blackness of night. However, you are here, and so am I.

I have no future at the moment. Not in education, employment, relationship, I can even see some of my long term friendships coming to a closure rather soon.

I'm not after sympathy. Preferably, a solution. Preferably even....you can all join me in misery. After all....misery loves company, and you're welcome at the home of the blues.

Some of you have known love, some haven't. Some have known disconnection from society and reality, some haven't. Some of you, won't really understand what I mean, but think you do.

What fun.

Um, so yes. I do hate my life. I have for a while now, for more than just a while. I don't actively talk to even my closest of friends about it, because it's awkward and unresolvable.

One of the problems, is that I don't care enough about certain things. For example, I bet you all care about getting a job. Well sure, I want happiness, worldly goods, but....a job? The whole premise of a job, is something you don't enjoy doing.

I understand....that people do something they don't enjoy, because it is offset by something they enjoy far more. For example, continuing to live.

But, beyond biologically living, are you really living, spending most of your life doing something you don't enjoy, surrounded by people you don't like?

I worked in an office for a year, not much granted, but that's how I feel about it. Don't tell me that your experience is different. If you had a nice time working with your fellow man, then YOU'RE the person I didn't like at that office. The sort of person who gets along with everyone because they're all on the same wavelength.

Girls into cosmetics, guys into cars.

Not me.

This goes under rants, I think. But...it's more than just a rant. You, my lovely stranger, know a little about me, that some of my best friends do not.

Now, go have a cup of tea and watch the news, or...whatever.

If you truly hated your life you i'd want to end it or you'd want to change it and I've been at both points. But the change doesn't come without effort and if you are too apathetic to try then I think you deserve your lot in life, however if you can muster up enough energy to change something, one little thing then it'll help.

Oh and how can belittle people who enjoy their work? I enjoy mine, I learn stuff all the time, meet interesting people all that, its part of my life. Sure I wish I could bum around w*nking 7 times a day, trying for the record of 8 and watching sh*t telly, but where would I be? With all the other apathetic sh*thouse c*nt losers, I'd rather make the effort to drag myself out of that, make a career for myself like I am doing, make enough money to look after my family and friends, to help people out including myself.

In summary, if you can't be arsed trying to change, accept it and stop moaning.

I wondered when someone else would find this thread and join in the ranting. It's a bit silly to whine about a life you have no intention of changing. I think this guy's already disappeared from VR again, though. Possibly to find a fulfilling job, who can say?

Obinice, real name no gimmicks.

Quote: Das Buroski, Sept 2009

Just to throw a spanner in the works.

Its not always as simple as 'finding a job you like'

Myself for example, I don't like settling in one role or job for more than a couple of years, I get bored easily so look to move onto the next big thing. Not bad if you are in a firm where you can move from role to role. However, thats a luxury that isn't always available.

Hell, its only in the last two weeks I got myself into a situation where I may be able to do just that. Prior to this I've jumped from role to role, job to job, career to career.

Even before I start at Zen I'm already planning ahead and looking for the next shift in employer.

This said.. I'm actually happier doing this, it keeps me on my toes and keeps me learning and fresh.. You just need to find an approach and a line of short term/long term work that can hold your attention for a while.. Or, if you can't do that, fall in with people who you get on with. Even in the mind numbing BT call centre job I had, I was kept sane by my workmates who were, luckily, a decent bunch.

Correct. But unless you're willing to try you really are f*cked, and you sir are a tryer and you have now progressed, you're life reminds me of the first level of Altered Beast, filled with the undead and a giant head shooting tree monster at the end.

Quote: Buffalo Bill, Sept 2009

Quote: Tuco, Sept 2009

Quote: Obinice, Aug 2009

I hate my life.

Sure I wish I could bum around w*nking 7 times a day, trying for the record of 8 and watching sh*t telly

Not as much fun as you think it would be.

The fun never lasts with anything these days