The State Of Vr

I don't say as much as I used to on here. I'm on every day, but I rarely see anthing I feel the need to reply to anymore.

I disagree that the average age has gone down. I was 16/17 when I started on here and there seemd to be a bunch of people of the same age who'd been about for seemingly forever then. I think it's just us which have grown up.

I don't think the content of VR has changed too much in all honesty. The people have though, and I never seemed to get to know a lot of the "newbies"...even those with post counts well into their thousands now.

I don't mod on here. I am listed but I do nothing, I guess at the time I felt "family Hour is dead...but I like the power trip". Now I'm totally apathetic about it (i think that's called maturity).

I love nearly all the people I've met on VR over the years, I have officially left 3 times and yet keep coming back for more.

Vr has definitly changed, its less close knit even though its still the closes of all the forums I know. This place was always about the people. Apart from maybe zine (which i no longer the factor itwas) the is very little we have in common as a large group.

Who knows how to improve it, I don't and I am not going to pretend to have the answers. I think VR is just evolving. Or maybe we are just nostalgic about the good old days.

I honestly don't know.

I completely apologise for my lack of activity here recently. I am still reading everything and keeping an eye on things but I find it very difficult to write anything when I am unwell (as anyone who has seen my website or has tried to talk to me on MSN will have found out). I really don't know what to suggest - I think a lot of it goes in phases, perhaps partially dicated by the school year and working times and summer holidays and stuff. This is why the debate comes up so regularly and I'm sure a lot of it will sort itself out given time. I really hope it does.

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I think part of the fact VR seems sort of 'slower' right now is going to be down to exams, I mean I know I'm here now, but I should be revising....

I totally echo this. I've been browsing VR every day but just haven't had the time to write out lengthy replies.

There has been something of a drop in excitement though. I can remember being on VR all day at school and then racing home to see what had happened.

Maybe we've just run out of debates? There aren't that many
topics to discuss that we haven't already.

And I also think the decline (bit of a strong term maybe) of VR is because of the lack of strong characters who used to really get people going (not in an erotic sense, I might add...well...maybe one or two)

Let's fight people. *gets out Spandex catsuit*

And then we'll probably have a thread like this in a few months saying, 'Ooh, isn't VR a nasty place now? I remember when it was a lovely place to go...'

I couldn't decide whether to snigger or look smug having seen my name mentioned here...

'Mon the Flapper!

The one that makes you look like Mary Poppins on valium young sir...
But keep trying

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I will say, however, that it's not really any specific person/board. It's more that the whole community is pretty weak. No-one seems to know what's going on in any other's life unless they're on each others MSN buddy list. The people that are friends talk to just their friends and no-one else. There's backstabbing, bitching, the lot. And because of that, it's heavily moderated.

Not so. There's a large number of regulars who have Livejournal and while I can't speak for everyone, my entries aren't filtered so that VR members can't read what I say. I lock most of my entries due to non-VRers reading things about them. If I had any issues with you guys, I'd say it to your faces. Yes, the "wackyness" does get on my (considerably large) tits, but I'm sure my constant innuendo has annoyed a lot of people. I don't really bother as much any more as I've grown up. Yeah, I'm still the Smut Queen, but I've matured.

As for lack of posting, yes, people are busy with work and exams, but in my free time, I've felt that I've had nothing to say that isn't about my own life which is why I live on Livejournal. I don't want to use VR as my personal blog and bore you all to tears. I don't reply to much because nothing really grabs my attention anymore. There does look like a lot of being nice for the sake of being nice. I've never been one for that. If I don't like what someone says, I say it. Aside from not feeling like replying, I've stopped myself from making bitchy replies to threads. I don't like that side of myself. There's been a few things that have been posted that I really want to reply "God, get a f*cking grip on yourself!" to, but I've restrained myself. Maybe it's work making me bitter *shrugs*

VR lacks the pep it once had for me. I can't explain it really. Maybe it's because the people I used to talk to aren't around as much. Maybe it's because work has consumed my life and I'm more self absorbed.

"It's not that I care what people think, I care what my friends think. And VR seems full of people who claim to be your friends while not actually getting you.
I don't care what random person on the street thinks, but I care what my friends think."

That's the best way I could sum up the whole two-faced thing. I knew what I meant. I'm not posting coherently so bear with me.

Thanks everyone.

However, stop whinging. Seaneen wanted the original thread to be a list of things the moderators can do to liven things up. So far all you've put together is:

New Thread: Someobody hates somebody else, lets throw tantrums

and

Bring back Brutally Honest.

Both ideas suck. The first idea is just childish, and you'll all get bored of that within a week. I'm bored of the very idea now.

Secondly, brutally honest? Aye right! I started a tongue in cheek thread on this Vr column about VR love, and half of you huffed and didn't actually get the point! The old membership of VR did the EXACT same with Brutally Honest. I swear, if any thread was as harsh as BH was, and it was on this current VR and it's membership, we'd have tears and huffs everywhere.

What do you want DONE on VR to liven it up? Don't whinge about what's wrong, tell the mods and us column mods what you'd like to see.

You've done well to identify the problems though, but really, we've covered all the bases on that one.